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I suffer from FOMO. Fear of Missing Out. And man do I suffer BAD.
At one point or another, I’m sure each of us has felt the sting of being left out. Of wanting to be included. Of wanting what Sally has. Her marriage, her business or seemingly flourishing career, her friends, her seemingly perfect children, her Pinterest-pretty home. It’s not a good thing. It leads us to check social media again and again and again so we don’t feel out of the loop. What’s so and so doing or who they hanging out with? What do I need to do so I can keep up? Am I measuring up? All so we can ‘feel’ like we’re doing okay. Measuring up. Fitting in.
Is this just a symptom of modern life? Is it no big deal?
To me, it’s become a VERY big deal. I mean…when did I stop living my life and start coveting others? When did what God has blessed me with become not good enough? When did I start trying to be something or someone I’m not?
I’ve found…over years of struggling with this that at the root of it FOMO isn’t really about what others may or may not be doing but about feeling that the life we are living is not enough – that what others have or are doing is better than what we have or are doing.
But by golly THAT IS A LIE.
We all go through different seasons BUT I absolutely promise you this life you’ve been given is beautiful in its own way just as theirs is.
FOMO HAS GOT TO GO.
I think the first step to overcoming FOMO is replacing it with gratitude and thankfulness. I believe it’s about becoming so consumed with the beauty in our own lives that we can come to a place where we not only feel secure in this journey we are on but are able to rejoice in with others without taking away from the joy we have in our own.
But How? I’ll be the first to admit after years of negativity and looking to others to make me happy…gratitude is not my natural response…
Maybe you’re a pen a paper gal. I wanna encourage you to write a list (or several) of things you are thankful for and put them somewhere – key places where you will see them throughout your day. On your bedroom mirror, on your kitchen refrigerator, on your steering wheel, on your desk at work. I have a gratitude journal. It’s on my desk and I turn to it every morning after I do my daily devotional. Starting the day with gratitude makes it a tad easier to not be swayed by what the world tells me I’m missing out on.
Digital gal? Trying using an app! My favorites are TickTick or Google Keep. Keep is for notes and Wunderlist is for…well lists. With both apps, you can access them on a mobile device and/or computer and can set up reminders to go off at certain times of the day at a frequency you choose (some of mine I have set for every day, some every 3 days and some once a week) that works best for you.
Having trouble working on your lists? Drawing a gratitude blank? Start simple. When I was in a particularly rough stage with my (at the time) two-year-old son I just started thinking of things I loved about him. His smile. His amazingly soulful hugs. How he needs me (because he won’t be a baby forever and I know I’ll miss this). And I realized each and every one of these was something I could be thankful for. And was.
Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.
– Oscar Wilde
P.S. Resonate with what you read above and need a little accountability? Start your lists and send them to me! If they are digital just copy and paste and send to me in an email to email@example.com. If they are physical take photos and email them over. I’d love to help keep you accountable and you for me so we can kick this FOMO!
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